Break ups are bad, no matter how they happen. Whether it’s been five days, five months or five years…it still hurts the same. Although the worst breakup I’ve ever been through was a guy dumping me on my birthday in the eighth grade, I’ve had plenty of friends who have dealt with bad breakups and feel as though I’m decently experienced when it comes to breakup advice.
I’ve heard all the excuses. The schoolwork, the parents, and of course, the infamous “it’s not you, it’s me” line. Although people never say it the same way, it still has the same implications behind it.
Junior Kemp Gregg said, “It goes more like ‘It’s not you, it’s we. It’s more of a combination of the two.”
Personally, I think I’d prefer the “it’s not you, it’s me.”
I’ve seen the breakup done pretty much every way. The change of a Facebook relationship status, the text, the phone call, the in person, and the worst…the public announcement.
What could be more humiliating then being dumped in front of your friends, or theirs?
Oh, and we can’t forget the “turkey dump,” being dumped the day after Thanksgiving.
An anonymous source told me about how her cousin was telling her about the turkey dump on Thanksgiving, and the day after…her boyfriend broke up with her.
Breakups happen all the time around the holidays because people just don’t want to shell out the money for someone they may not even care that much about.
I find that most of the time, people never seem to give a reason behind the breakup unless pushed.
Junior Sally Lee said, “I’d rather know the truth because it’s better than not knowing. You’re left wondering and asking yourself if you did anything wrong.”
Although there is not a “correct” way of breaking up with someone, some manners are required. A text message and the public humiliation are just too harsh. Although some people may not want to deal with the emotional melodrama that follows an in person breakup, face to face confrontation is just the better way to go. `
Some people, after the breakup say they still want to be friends. Let’s be honest. How often does this actually occur? From personal experience, I can say not very often. Although there are few exceptions to the case, if the friendship before and during the relationship was not strong enough, a friendship is not going to exist after the relationship is over.
When it comes to relationships, there really is perfect way to end one. Although some ways are better than others, each leaves one person or possibly both feeling empty. If I could give one piece of advice, even if you’re breaking up with someone because you no longer have feelings towards them, the other person still has feelings and breakups should be treated with immense delicacy. Breakups will never be easy, but you can always try to make them easier.
